Misandry in India - A Sample Research

What do you do to a wife who walks out of marriage within 6 months, and constantly threatens you of suicide, within the marriage, and after leaving the husband? I asked to seek opinions from a few. Here are the responses:

Ms. ABC (Divorced, 55 yrs old, "Pro-Equality woman"): No woman walks out of marriage in India. 

It is you men who marry them, abuse them for 20-30 years, and when they are not able to work and earn a living anymore, you dump them in religious places like Kashi and Vrindavan.

Ms. DEF (Lawyer, unmarried, 40 yrs old): What walks out? The husbands in India throw out their wives at midnight, leaving them nowhere to stay.

Mr. GHI (Media personality, married twice, 60 yrs old): I would give her all I have. 

She had loved me for 6 months. I can give her anything she wants.

Congress MP Renuka Chaudhary - When asked about misuse of Dowry, DV Act, and other laws by gold-digging women, she openly replied, "It is the mens' turn to suffer"

Mr. JKL (Teacher, MBA, Feminist, 30 yrs old): You MCP! I don't want to comment.

Ms. MNO (Celebrity, "Alimony-wife", 45 yrs old): If the woman herself wants to get out of the marriage, you should respect that. You should give her half of the property whatever you have earned after your marriage.

Mr. PQR ("Forcefully-separated", Engineer, Equalist, 30 yrs old): I think they need to sit down and talk first, in private, about what they want from life. Both the man and the woman must try to save the marriage first.

Ms. STU (Divorced, Single-mother, 40 yrs old): Ask her for a mutual consent divorce first. 

If that does not work out, the woman must find her priorities. If she really wants to get out of the marriage, then it is her decision. Why would she make the man pay for HER decision?

Mr. VWX (Divorced, Single-father, 40 yrs old): A divorce is bad both for the boy and the girl. 

But, a marriage cannot go on if one party gives such suicide-threats every now and then. 

The law must help the man in such cases. It is not always that the woman is a sati-savitri and the law must understand that. They should go for a divorce, of course, but please don't make marriage, just another financial transaction/ commitment.

Mr. AYZ (Single, Equalist, 30 yrs old): Ask the girl to decide whether she wants the husband or not? 

If she is giving threats like that, she must be having some problem. Take her to a doctor. 

If she does not agree to it, try to make her understand. Discuss the issues you guys are having in your relationship. Suicide is not the answer to everything. I doubt she must be having something more important, which is more important than her husband. But that's just a guess. Actually, TALK. That's the best you can do.

But try to sort it out within your family itself. Don't involve the girl's family, it might get dirty.

This is what a Feminist in India thinks of all men, and so do the laws and the lawmakers in India

Governmentof India: Nothing is required. There is no fault of anyone. Just ask the girl to file a divorce case. And the husband should pay half of all his and his father's, mother's, forefather's property to the girl, so that she does not feel that her decision of getting the divorce was wrong.

#IrBM takes away the basic human rights - The Right to Speak, Right to Equality, and Right to Justice from Indian husbands. Raise your voice against this menace today, before the Bill is passed in Rajya Sabha and made into a law.

You can see here the misandry that is heavily practiced in the Indian society. Not only do the feminists and greedy females want easy money from the husbands and in-laws, but also a whole lot of men, who support women and their causes mindlessly. Perhaps it is time that we realize Feminism in India is not about “Equality” anymore. They have gone far beyond to make Equality ~ Supremacy!

Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage (IrBM) Bill - What does it mean?

Since August last year, there had been multiple protests to IrBM by various Mens’ Rights groups all over India. And these protests still continue as the Govt of India has totally ignored the voice of such men and women, and continued with the process of passing this Bill as a Law to the Rajya Sabha. This Bill, allegedly forced by the National Commission for Women (NCW) has so far had the sane and aware population of India in a stir, especially the married and soon-to-be-married males.

So, what exactly is the IrBM? And, why should the average married man condemn this Bill, along with his family, friends, and relatives?

Some of the important aspects of the IrBM are:

1. Wife can file a No-Fault Divorce, that is, Speedy Divorce (Husband does not have any fault, but the marriage has broken and cannot be retrieved), and the Husband CANNOT oppose it. If a husband files for a No-Fault Divorce, the Wife can oppose it.

-> The basic Right to Justice given by the Indian Constitution is being taken back from the Husbands in India.

2. The minimum tenure for a Divorce by Mutual Consent, which was 6 months- 18 months earlier, has now been increased to 3 years.

-> If you can give divorce through the courts in 1 day, why increase the tenure for MCD? This clearly looks to be a staged conspiracy to motivate the gold-digging women to directly go to the courts and seize the husband’s property, rather than going on the path of having a peaceful divorce mutually.

3. With a speedy divorce, the husband’s property is divided equally between the husband and the wife, not considering how many more family members the husband has. 

-> The husband will be forced to hand over to the wife:

a. Minimum 50% of his NET WORTH (his own moveable and immoveable property)

b. 50% of his inherited property (Inherited from his parents or ancestors)

c. 50% of his inheritable property (Property that he MAY or MAY NOT inherit from his parents in the future).

d. 50% of his lifetime earnings (The Net Salary he can earn over his entire life until 60 years of age. This earning by the wife will be exempted by Income Tax Dept, and the entire tax is payable by the husband).

e. If the husband cannot provide any of the above at the time of the divorce, the court will give him a few months for the same, and in case the property cannot be divided, then the husband will have to pay the wife IN CASH, the monetary value of the entire property.

       i. The financial liabilities of the husband will not be considered. Only assets are divided, not the liabilities (Loan disbursements, family expenditure, etc)

       ii. The wife’s contribution to the marriage is not considered. Whether the wife had helped the husband to earn the money during the course of marriage, will not be considered anymore.

        iii. The duration of marriage is not considered. The wife can file for divorce even after 1 day of marriage.

       iv. Financial position of the wife and her family is not considered. Even if the wife is more affluent than the husband, she still gets 50% of the husband’s and his ancestors’ hard-earned money. It is justified to give to the wife, part of the husband’s property, but have the ancestors done any wrong in passing over the property to their sons? Don’t you think this will lead to male genocide, as people would prefer to have girl child, and not boys, who would ultimately hand over their hard earned property to a girl!

Following are the arguments put forth in the various News Channels’ Talk shows, to support this Bill, mainly by NCW and other feminists, vis-à-vis the facts:

Faminists:    Poverty is a gender issue and primarily, all women in India are poor

Fact:      Two most important features of poverty are Malnutrition and Substandard healthcare (or access to them).

i.                     Average Life Expectancy of Females in India – 65. For males, it is 62

ii.                    WHO Data shows the following figures for deaths due to diseases:

Males – 880 per 100,000, Females – 780 per 100,000

Feminists:    Price of Love and care must be paid back to the wife

Fact:   How can you monetize Love and care? The feminists now want every marriage to be nothing more than a financial transaction. As the women provide love and care to the husband, the husband also does the same to his wife. Why would the same the price not be paid back to the husband too?

Feminists:    Parents do not give any property to their daughters in this patriarchal society

Fact:      If parents don’t give property to their daughters, why burden the husbands?

Feminists:    Women give birth to babies, hence it is just alright for them to ask for husbands and in-laws’ property

Fact:      All over the world, for all the mammals it is imperative that the females give birth when their eggs are fertilized by the male sperms. This is how nature has made them. Asking for the husband’s property for this reason is plain senseless

Feminists:    India has a Male-Dominated society, and every woman needs husband’s property to survive in this society

Fact:      How do you define domination on facts and figures? I though the most important aspect one can have is the no. of voters. As per 2009 data released by Election Commission of India, 45.8% of all votes in the country were laid by men, and 54.2 % by women.

Feminists:    Single Women are not allowed to rent houses in any city

Fact:      This is absurd. I have seen in many states that families and single women are allowed to rent apartments in all areas, while in most of the areas, bachelors and single fathers are not allowed. Besides, if that is a problem, then make amendments in the Society Housing acts, why take the property from husband’s ancestors?

Feminism in India is not about equality anymore. Photo Courtesy: Allvoices

Feminists:    For the past 5000 years, women were treated like second-class citizens in India

Fact:      Don’t tell me what was there 5000 years ago. At that time, there were no human rights commissions, there were no courts of law, etc. As on date, women are more endowed than men, with reservations in almost every possible field, and they are sharing the roads equally with men, if not dominating the workplaces. If you get a call on your cellphone now, you receive the call now itself. Not after 5 days!!!

So, you can very well see on what grounds the NCW has forced this Bill on to the Govt. Do you still support it? Can you still stay calm?

Finally, what should we, as sane citizens of India, should demand from the Government:

1. ROLLBACK IrBM in all forms. We already have multiple draconian laws in the country like 498A, DV, etc. We don’t want anymore.

2. Replace “wife/ husband” with “Spouse”. Make the law gender-neutral. If one party files a case, the other should be ABLE TO OPPOSE or CONTEST.

3. Remove “Inheritable Property” from the Bill. No one can say today if a man would give his property to his one son or the other, after 20 years. What if he says he might give and he doesn’t? Will the wife return the money then?

4. Mutual Consent Divorce tenure should be reduced to 3-6 months. In this fast life, no one really waits for another, and with so much pressure on everyone’s lives, why increase the burden to make them WAIT. If something cannot be fixed in 6 months, it won’t be fixed in 3 years as well. Rather, let the two parties walk off happily into their own realms, rather than make them wait and pay for their decision to have a peaceful divorce. 

And finally, I would really want to ask the NCW and the radical Feminist Groups in India, "If you want the wives to be empowered, why don't you ask them to have their own lives with their own income and not be dependent on the husbands? Instead of looting the husbands, why can't you ask the wives to work towards earning money? Would you do the same if your sons get married to such radical women, or, would you force the Govt to pass another law that would then protect your sons?"

Sources: Stand Up For a Cause, The Times of India, 498a.org, Lawyers' Club India, National Commission for Women, IBN Live, NDTV

498A: How to Harass Husbands in India. Part - 2

... Continued from previous post (498A: How to harass husbands in India - I)

Let’s get a sneak peek into what can be the possible motives of women using the 498A (other than true dowry cases):-

. Money – The wife can demand a huge amount of money from his husband, who has been jailed along with his parents, even for a short time, in case they have received an Anticipatory Bail

. Revenge – She can use it as a tool to take revenge if her husband etc did not fulfil her demands

. Guilt – She has done something wrong (for example, adultery), and wants to cover it up with a dowry harassment case

. She does not like you – She does not like her husband due to any reason, and wants to get out of the marriage

. Control over husband – She wants to control her husband in every possible way, and has not been able to do so. She may have wanted to stay alone with her husband, or, with her parents and her husband. Unable to do so, she files a 498A. It’s been observed that the woman’s mother plays a big role in such cases

. To marry her ex-boyfriend - She has not been able to forget her so-called “ex-boyfriend”, and now wants to marry him, with cash pocketed from the husband.

 

Photo Courtesy: Trey Morgan

Example Case 2: Entire family sent to jail in July 2003

As per “The Observer”, “The entire Sharma family is stuck inside New Delhi's Tihar Jail -- from the grandparents down to the youngest child, aged three. This is not due to some rampant criminal gene but because a daughter-in-law has filed charges against them alleging harassment to extract dowry payments.

Rupa Sharma (name changed) says their son's marriage to Tisha (name changed) went badly wrong.

"When divorce seemed on the cards, Tisha’s parents began claiming we were torturing Tisha and that we were trying to get a car and gold jewellery out of them. But they just wanted to take their anger out on us and the easiest way was to get us thrown into jail on cooked up dowry charges," she said.”

"Such women incriminate everyone, not just the husband but the husband's sister or brother and parents. 

In the Sharma's case, the three-year-old girl ended up in jail too because, with the entire family inside, there was no one to look after her at home," New Delhi HC judge Aradhana Ramachandran (name changed) said.

"It's taken decades for women to pluck up the courage to use these laws and now they want to dilute them. There may well be a few cases of abuse. But dowry-related violence is so horrific that these laws are life-savers for women and it would be disastrous to dilute them. 

We fought long and hard for these laws. We won’t give them up so easily," said Shiuli Karat (name changed), All India Democratic Women’s Federation (AIDWA) president.

In a recent article on a newspaper, it was found that more than 85% of the 498A cases filed against a husband were false. Now, the Indian law says that when your wife has filed a false 498A case against you, you are qualified to get a divorce. But then, you have to pay alimony as asked by your wife. So, ultimately, whether it’s a true 498A or a false one, the wife still succeeds in extorting a huge sum of money from the husband. In that case, does the husband not have the right to live a free life? Can he not be the sole person to enjoy his hard-earned money? 

Why does he have to pay money to someone who has harassed him and his family? Does the Indian law understand, the mental and social harassment undergone by the husband’s family from the day they are being imprisoned, till the day the final verdict is being heard? Does the Court compensate them for this harassment? The answer is a big NO. That is because, it is still believed in the Indian courtrooms that the wife has not done anything wrong in filing a 498A case. 

She can file it any time since the day of her marriage, till her death.

It has already been established that more than 90% of the Dowry cases filed in India are fake. But, in almost all the cases, the husbands are criminalized and arrested without even doing a proper investigation. Contrary to the laws laid by Indian Constitution, the husbands in such cases are held "Guilty until proven otherwise". Why are the women believed on so blindly?

Now, looking into this aspect of 498A, what is the logic behind being able to lodge a 498A against a husband whom, the wife has stayed apart from, for more than 70% of her married life? 

Take this scenario: The couple has been married for 11 months, and never even once has the woman allowed her husband to have any physical relationship with him. The wife has willingly walked out of her marital home after 3 months of marriage by physically beating up her mother-in-law with the help of her uncles, without the consent of and in the absence of the husband. 

Now, she files a case of 498A, and says that she had been subjected to mental and physical torture for dowry. 

And, even after the husband contests the divorce case, all his lawyers advise that he has to pay a huge alimony, even in the case of such voidable marriage.

So, as it stands today, if any woman is unemployed and wants quick and big money, and does not foresee a great future financially, gets married as per rituals only with extortion in her mind, and files a 498A.

Marriages were always regarded as a holy institution, as “marriages are made in heaven”. But if this trend goes on, provided the Indian Parliament does not change their women-centric laws, then, forget about heaven, marriages will genuinely cease to exist in the coming years. As I see today, marriage (as regulated by the feminists and such families) has now become more of an organised social crime, rather than the so-believed “holy institution”.

Sources: SIFF (Save Indian Family Foundation), 498a.org.in, punjabnewsline.com, ipc498a.wordpress.com, Taipei Times, The Indian Express

498A: How to Harass Husbands in India. Part - 1

It is widely assumed that it is a male-dominated society in India.  

Notwithstanding, the Indian laws are totally female-dominated.

India was always supposed to have a male-dominated society. But, with certain laws under the Indian Penal Code (IPC), it does not seem to be the case anymore. The Indian Constitution has handed the fundamental right “Right to Equality” to all citizens of India.

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Then, why do we have the marital laws enforced in such a way that only the wife and her family gets benefitted from them, while the husband and his family is subjected to all the harassment in the world? A typical law of such nature is: If a married woman commits suicide, the husband and his parents will be immediately arrested and subjected to imprisonment without any investigation, presuming it’s a case of dowry harassment.

Until the investigation is completed, they will have to remain in prison. Whereas, if a married man commits suicide, the wife will be subjected to 50% of the husband’s property.

Is this what we call “equality”?

 

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Another law that is being highly misused is “The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005”. This law assumes that all victims of domestic violence are women and it does not give a man a chance to complain or seek justice if he is being harassed or abused by his wife. It also assumes that wives are always honest and truthful. Therefore, proof and evidence to support the allegations of abuse are not required. Leave the “Right to Equality”, where is the “Right to Justice” for the husbands?

Passed by the Indian Parliament in 1983, Indian Penal Code Section 498A, is a criminal law (not a civil law), which is defined as follows: “Whoever, being the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman subjects such woman to cruelty, shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to fine.

The offence is Cognizable, non-compoundable, and non-bailable.”

Photo Courtesy: Stand Up For A Cause

Do we have a similar law which defines that if a woman subjects his husband to cruelty or mental harassment, then she and her family will be subjected to imprisonment? Where is the so-called “equality” then?

Example Case 1: Verdict of a Bail Application in July 2005

Bail Application No. xxxx/2005

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1. Petitioner, husband of Rupa (name changed), is an accused in FIR No. xxx/05 under Section 498A/307/34 IPC. He is in judicial custody since 8.5.2005. Learned counsel for the petitioner presses for bail stating that Rupa consumed some poisonous substance and it was the petitioner who took Rupa to M.B.Hospital, Poothkalan, Delhi and Rupa was discharged at the said hospital on the same date after some treatment. Counsel states that this shows that condition of Rupa was not serious. Counsel further states that the possibility of Rupa consuming something out of haste or in a state of depression cannot be ruled out.

2. FIR has been registered pursuant to a statement of Rupa in which she has alleged dowry harassment at the hands of her husband. It is to be noted that father-in-law and mother-in-law as also the other members of in-laws family are residing in the same house, but Rupa has not implicated any other family member except her 'Nandoi'. In her statement, Rupa has categorically stated that the petitioner under threat of shooting her forced her to eat some tablets. She refused. At that stage, her 'Nandoi' joined and her husband forcibly administered some tablets to her and her 'Nandoi' gave a glass of water to her husband and her husband forced water into her gullet.

3. Record of M.B. Hospital, Poothkhurd, Delhi shows that Rupa was taken at her mother on her own responsibility to Maharaja Uggersain Hospital. Record does not show that Rupa was discharged by M.B.Hospital, Poothkhurd, Delhi.

4. Counsel for the State submits that people are generally unhappy with the Government hospitals and probably for this reason, mother of Rupa took her to a private hospital.

5. In any case, contention of the petitioner that Rupa was discharged on the same day from M.B.Hospital is contrary to the medical records.

6. I have perused the FIR. Rupa has only implicated her husband as the person demanding dowry. On the particular incident she has also named her Nandoi. Her statement appears to be truthful as she has not implicated any other family member of her in-laws, a general trend noticed by this Court in most complaints by the aggrieved wives.

7. Considering the statement of Rupa, the manner in which the offence is stated to have been committed, the pious relationship which the petitioner expected is to have with his wife, breach of trust and safety which the wife could see in her husband's house, at this stage, I am not inclined to admit the petitioner to bail. Dismissed.

**One can easily see the grounds on which the bail was dismissed. If the wife has not accused anyone except her Nandoi, then does that logically imply that her husband and Nandoi were truly the criminals?

What if it was just the first stepping stone for the wife who was inclined to leave the husband’s house at any cost, for some extra-marital reasons? What if she just wanted to punish them for any unforeseeable reason?

How can she be taken to another hospital without getting released from M.B. Hospital? Are the medical records real?

Will anyone investigate into the facts, rather than blindly believing in what a woman has to say!!!

It was always understood that women constitute the “weaker” section of the society. But, does that mean that in each and every field, we give priority and a proper hearing to what a wife has to say, and believe her without listening to the husband or his family? Over the past 2 years, we have seen an exponential rise in such cases, all over the country.

... To be continued